Based on my experience, wedding planning can be really tricky. It's exciting - yes, but also very stressful. They say you'll learn a lot from this and would also learn new things about your partner - also true - new things - both the good and the bad.
Put in a very stressful situation, a person would almost always show his/her true colors. How they handle stress and how they interact with other people during stressful times would definitely show what kind of person he / she is.
Petty fights are the norm during wedding planning. What color should the theme be -- No I don't like pink, it's too girly -- Well, black is too sad. Who should get invited -- I don't like your Aunt -- well, too bad because they are invited. -- I don't like these people! why are we coughing up money to pay for their food.. -- Well, tell that to my parents --- and so on and so forth.
I have known friends who let the bride take over the planning - decide on most major expenses and just offer finances as their share. But I really disagree on this. It's a precedence on how you will spend your married life. Also, giving in on the requests and wants of the bride is really not a good idea, most especially if you do not have the money for it!
But it's not always fighting and bickering. At this stage, you'll also learn a few wonderful things about you as a couple - that you can agree to disagree, you can put your head together and plan a wonderful wedding, that you can agree on money matters, etc. It's actually a preview of your married life - who handles the money, who handles the household stuff, and who gets to have the final say on things. (The wife, of course, haha)
It's a JOURNEY. And definitely, the wedding is not the end of it. You'll have more decisions to argue about, more things to consider, more finances to compute, and more agreements to share.
In the end, it's a great opportunity for both the bride and the groom to take a step back, and realize, you're no longer making decisions for yourself. You are a part of a team, and you have to make decisions as a team. Being selfish is no longer an option, as another person's life (and finances!) is also affected. It's a dress rehearsal, of some sort, to your life as a wedded couple.
So in every petty fight and argument and who gets to sit on the presidential table, take a step back and think -- who the hell even remembers where they were sitting at a relative or a friend's wedding -- honestly, IT DOES NOT MATTER. What matters is that when the wedding day comes, the priest is there, the food is prepared, the dress fits, and the bride and the groom are present. Honestly, that's the most important thing.
And my favorite motto of all during wedding planning - IT is always better to BEND a little, than to BREAK. ;)
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